Mental Health
7 Mindset Upgrades for When You’re Trying to Get Your Sh*t Together
by Wisemor - 7 min read
WISEMOR
Let’s be honest—modern life can feel like juggling too many things at once. You’re expected to stay calm, reach your goals, stay fit, and be emotionally aware. And if you can also meditate every day while hitting your protein target, that’s a bonus.
But you don’t need to change your whole personality. Often, small mindset shifts make the biggest difference.
It’s like turning the steering wheel just a little—suddenly, you’re moving in a better direction. Here are 7 simple but powerful mindset shifts to help you feel more grounded, more focused, and more like yourself again.
1. From: “I have to do this.” → “I get to do this.”
Dragging yourself to the gym? Feels like punishment. Kicking a ball around with your mates? Easy.
That shift from obligation to opportunity changes everything. You don’t have to journal, go for a run, or set goals. You get to do those things to become a happier, healthier version of you.
Reframe the boring or hard stuff. Gratitude isn’t just fluffy quotes—it’s backed by research. Practising it can boost your mood and motivation.
2. From: “All or nothing.” → “Just a little is enough.”
You don’t need a 90-minute workout. A 10-minute walk still counts. Didn’t write a full journal entry? One sentence is still progress.
All-or-nothing thinking is a trap. It burns you out or makes you quit.
Choose consistency over intensity. Lower the bar and show up anyway. That’s how momentum starts.
3. From: “I’m stuck.” → “I’m learning.”
Feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’ve failed—it usually means you’re right on the edge of growth.
Instead of tearing yourself down, ask:
“What’s this teaching me?”
Having a growth mindset—believing you can improve with effort—helps you lean into challenges and stay open to learning.
Setbacks aren’t failures. They’re feedback.
4. From: “I can’t be bothered.” → “Future me will thank me.”
When motivation has left the chat, remember: your future self is relying on you. The one who wants to feel less anxious, more confident, and like he’s actually got his sh*t together.
Laying your clothes out for tomorrow, putting your phone away at night, journaling your thoughts—none of that is really about now. It’s about who you’re becoming.
Let future you make the call, not the version of you who just wants to scroll.
5. From: “What will they think?” → “What do I think?”
We make so many decisions based on what other people might think. But honestly? Most people are too busy worrying about themselves.
Your values, your standards, your voice—that’s what counts.
Next time you hesitate, ask:
“If no one was watching, what would I do?”
It’s your life. Live it your way.
6. From: “I’ll deal with it later.” → “Let’s handle this now.”
Procrastination isn’t just being lazy. It’s often avoiding discomfort.
But that constant low-level stress from putting stuff off? Way worse than just getting it done. Reply to the message. Book the appointment. Have the awkward chat. Rip the plaster off.
Quick wins build confidence. Use the 2-minute rule: if it takes less than 2 minutes, do it now.
7. From: “I’m doing this alone.” → “I’m not the only one.”
It can feel like you’re the only one struggling. Truth is, almost everyone is dealing with something you’ll never see.
Opening up doesn’t make you weak. It makes you real.
Start by being honest with yourself. Then find your support system—mates, mentors, community, or a mental health pro. Connection makes the load lighter.
These aren’t huge life overhauls. They’re small, intentional shifts in how you talk to yourself. Over time, they stack up. They change how you see yourself—and how you show up in the world.
If you’re feeling stuck, flat, or off-track, don’t wait for the “perfect time.” Start with one tiny shift today. Text a friend, take a walk, or jot down how you’re feeling right now. Just start.
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